How often do we try and make things happen to realise that it hasn’t worked or actually it hasn’t worked how we wanted it to work? Can we actually choose?
Did you try to get a job only to discover that someone – more qualified or less qualified – older or younger – taller or shorter has got it? You made it to the short list! But…. You didn’t get it. If it truly was meant to be then just imagine a scenario… you would be working at “that place” possibly stuck in the basement, devoid of sunshine, not being able to chat to anyone because no one else worked down in the basement, you don’t have a lovely coffee machine close by, you are pretty miserable with “your lot”. The job was not at all as it was advertised to be.
How many of us have had that happen? You go for a job, you are really keen on getting it, and you do everything in your power to get it. You get it. And then you don’t want it? Aren’t we difficult to please?
Imagine now, that you didn’t get the job you were supposedly desperate for. You might have another job which is less exciting but you do now the energy to release your creativity and passion into your life. You now have the energy and time to pursue your dream of “World Peace” or Ending Poverty or even just running Personal Development training courses. Just? I hear you ask. “Just?” Well in comparison to World Peace or ridding the world of poverty – yes, running my personal favourite training sessions is pretty inconsequential. But it is MY passion! What is yours? Running a cake company? Boudoir Photography? Painting houses?
Back to what happens if you did get that job you were desperate for. You would have been far too involved getting to and from work, when you were at work any energy you might have had would be taken up with trying to imagine golden sunsets and lovely beaches to lighten up your day, stuck in the dark basement. But – and we repeat the mantra “if it’s meant to be it will be” – made famous with a song of the same name: Che Sara, Sara! Whatever will be, will be! Do we believe it? And we can reframe any situation to create a positive slant on the situation.
The expression “If it’s meant to be it will be!” does not negate the need to give things a go. It does not give you permission to just sit at home waiting for instance for a Knight in Shining Armour to turn up on your doorstop. I hate to be the one to tell you… but “it just ain’t gonna happenJ” Knights do not know how to ring the front door bell (the armour gets in the way)! But luckily… they like drinking coffee – who knows, in my world that works. 😉 I think you understand where I am coming from. You need to get on and do something yourself about your passions in life, start creating the life you want, the life you deserve, the life which would make you leap out of bed in the morning rather than looking at the alarm clock and wishing it was Saturday or Sunday.
So although I do believe that “If it’s meant to be it will be!” I also do not sit at home waiting for things to happen, I GO AND MAKE THEM HAPPEN and if things don’t turn out how you thought you wanted them to be – remember you can reframe the situation. Choose to look for the positive slant in the situation.
Let me know what happens.
Enjoy your week