Pretend as if you are a star! Live your

Pretend as if you are a star! Live your life as though you were a star in whatever arena you want. Live your Iife as though you had already achieved it all 🙂 Feel the difference! Notice the difference! Hear the difference! Be the difference 🙂

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Don’t Be Sad!

Don’t Be Sad!

 “Hi Tina just wanted to say thank you for tonight. I feel very light and happy after my session.  A sort of contentment that I haven’t had in a long while. Life feels good and I don’t have to worry constantly!! Thank you

Testimonial from an obviously happy client

It’s a funny thing how some of the most serious issues are often the easiest to deal with. I think it may be because clients imagine that heavy things like depression are really difficult to overcome and actually that is not necessarily true.  Sometimes the biggest things are the easiest to deal with, certainly from a hypnotherapeutic with NLP perspective.  I am certainly not downgrading the very real feelings of “being sad” and not being able to get out of bed – I am just saying that you might be surprised at how quickly those emotions can be changed.

“I felt my last session with you helped me feel so much better about me, my life and my confidence in general! I kept feeling waves of happiness and not so much worry about my life in general!! Thank you!”

I love dealing with clients who have depression AND who want to feel better.  There are lots of really simple, common sense and obvious techniques and here are a few that I would like to share with you. Try these before you even feel the black cloud descending! Do this on a regular basis!

  • Make sure you get yourself outside into the fresh air – or even not so fresh air! If you live in the city – find a quiet spot, a park bench, and some greenery and BREATHE and LISTEN. And be still.
  • Think of something to be grateful for every day. It could be as simple as having a roof over your head, fresh water from the tap –some people do not even have that luxury or having people around you who care for you.
  • Work out what your favourite music or movie or even book is! Think about it! Why does it make you happy! If you can’t find “the one” that is fine just one that makes you happy and smile is enough.  Maybe if you have it close by – watch it, read it again or listen to it. Do it NOW!

And sometimes you have to take the hidden compliments:

“Hey Tina, great news I got the job! What you did must’ve had an effect I guess, so thank you very much lol.  Would like to book another appointment…..”

Let me know how you feel.

If you would like to have a 121 ring me for a chat on 07973 402037 and  take a look at my website which is www.TheInspirationPeople.com

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Is Flirting Harmless?

FLIRTDoes flirting make you unfaithful to your partner? Are you scared of flirting? Do you think it is a precursor to something else? I would say NO, NO and NO again!

Is Flirting Harmless? Yes indeed it can be!

I’m going to show you how done the right way it is invigorating, fun, exciting and in addition to all that will make you smile.  It makes the recipient feel good and makes YOU feel good! Basically it is a plus, plus situation all the way round.

Firstly I would say you need to be secure in your relationship! Flirting becomes inappropriate when either the words spoken or the conduct definitely suggests a strong desire to have the relationship become physical.

Anything you wouldn’t do in front of your significant other – you shouldn’t be doing when he/she isn’t around.

wife flirtingAny behaviour that you would be uncomfortable with your significant other seeing,  shouldn’t be done either.

Anything you say that you wouldn’t want your significant other to overhear or hear about – you might want to avoid.

What flirting IS about:

 Make the other person feel good about themselves

Have fun – Smile and laugh

Be light-hearted

 

The key to meeting people and knowing if they are flirting is to know when someone is flirting, so you can flirt back.  Three things to notice: EYES, SMILE, HAIR!

Eyes – One way to flirt is with your eyes.  You may spot someone across the room and then frequently glance your way, with or without smiling.girl&boy firting

Smile – Smiling is a way of flirting.  Usually, this is a sign that you are open to meeting which is good.

Hair – Sometimes, women will also play with their hair, which is done both intentionally and unintentionally.  In this case, you might see a woman twirling her hair with her finger, rubbing the back of her neck and then gently flipping her hair, and so on.

Let’s talk about Jonathon Ross – he is an all time serious flirter and he means nothing with it apart from having fun.  He would flirt with your dog or cat or even hamster.  He doesn’t seem to distinguish between gender – he will flirt with everyone! As will David Walliams. And a female flirt? –What about Nigella Lawson? Have you seen her in action?  Head down, eyelashes fluttering – bottom wiggling, not to mention the finger licking! We can learn a lot from these public figures.

When you think of these characters what do you notice? BIG smiles – from both parties – touching of arms, appropriate touching – the safe area! The extremities!

Flirting is a great technique to learn because it is about getting into rapport with people. Communication becomes easier and more fluid with rapport.  Without rapport it is very difficult to communicate let alone flirt, conversation will be very difficult and uncomfortable so not a lot of chance to flirt.

What is rapport? Rapport is all about body language which could be the physiology of how our bodies are placed, or it could be the tone of our voices or it could be the words we use.  All of those aspects make up Body Language and help us build rapport.

Let’s talk briefly about matching body language.  Very often people have heard of mirroring and that that is all there is to building rapport.  Mirroring in case you haven’t heard of it is literally copying every movement the other person makes, every head nod, maybe repeating their words back to them. It is like when children reach that delightful age when they repeat everything you say…. “Everything you say”…. And it quickly becomes really, really irritating “really, really irritating” even using the same inflection sometimes. So my message to you is DON’T mirror if you ant to gain rapport but DO MATCH!

Matching is about picking one bit of body language that the other person is doing and copy that.  SO if they have their hands behind their back – you could put your hands or just one hand behind you – if they are nodding vigorously then you could nod back (not vigorously necessarily).  This needs practice so it is not so obvious! But at the beginning just play with it.flirting with feet

When you are with friends, family even colleagues you are probably instantly in rapport – notice how YOU are sitting and then notice how your friends are sitting. If you have your legs crossed, possibly your friend will have their crossed.  If you are leaning on the table towards them the likelihood is they too are leaning forward. You might even find you use the same words when you describe things together.

So having practiced your matching technique you are set to go!

Match! Match! Match again then smile and engage in conversation.

A few tips for “good or successful” flirting. The key to friendly flirtation is light-heartedness and supreme subtlety. Flirting can be as simple and easy as matching body language (body language includes the words we use by the way)

Pick your target – let’s be honest it will not work with everyone! If you want to flirt with someone and they are, or appear to be, distressed or emotional in any way or if their body language is closed, the likelihood is the reaction will not be great!

A few “do nots”:

Do NOT get into their personal space

Do NOT be lewd or rude – that is not what flirting is about

Do NOT touch inappropriately

If you have had negative ideas of flirting before I encourage you to look at flirting in a different way now.  It is about sharing positive feelings.  It is about giving out what you want to get back.  So if you want people to smile at you and be happy to see you then you need to smile and be happy to see others first.

Remember Flirting is Fun and Frivolous and – nothing more!

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If It’s Meant To Be, It Will Be!

How often do we try and make things happen to realise that it hasn’t worked or actually it hasn’t worked how we wanted it to work?  Can we actually choose?

Did you try to get a job only to discover that someone – more qualified or less qualified – older or younger – taller or shorter has got it?  You made it to the short list! But…. You didn’t get it.  If it truly was meant to be then just imagine a scenario… you would be working at “that place” possibly stuck in the basement, devoid of sunshine, not being able to chat to anyone because no one else worked down in the basement, you don’t have a lovely coffee machine close by, you are pretty miserable with “your lot”. The job was not at all as it was advertised to be.

How many of us have had that happen? You go for a job, you are really keen on getting it, and you do everything in your power to get it.  You get it.  And then you don’t want it? Aren’t we difficult to please?

Imagine now, that you didn’t get the job you were supposedly desperate for.  You might have another job which is less exciting but you do now the energy to release your creativity and passion into your life.  You now have the energy and time to pursue your dream of “World Peace” or Ending Poverty or even just running Personal Development training courses. Just? I hear you ask. “Just?” Well in comparison to World Peace or ridding the world of poverty – yes, running my personal favourite training sessions is pretty inconsequential. But it is MY passion! What is yours? Running a cake company? Boudoir Photography? Painting houses?

Back to what happens if you did get that job you were desperate for. You would have been far too involved getting to and from work, when you were at work any energy you might have had would be taken up with trying to imagine golden sunsets and lovely beaches to lighten up your day, stuck in the dark basement. But – and we repeat the mantra “if it’s meant to be it will be” – made famous with a song of the same name: Che Sara, Sara! Whatever will be, will be! Do we believe it? And we can reframe any situation to create a positive slant on the situation.

The expression “If it’s meant to be it will be!” does not negate the need to give things a go. It does not give you permission to just sit at home waiting for instance for a Knight in Shining Armour to turn up on your doorstop. I hate to be the one to tell you… but “it just ain’t gonna happenJ”  Knights do not know how to ring the front door bell (the armour gets in the way)! But luckily… they like drinking coffee – who knows, in my world that works. 😉 I think you understand where I am coming from. You need to get on and do something yourself about your passions in life, start creating the life you want, the life you deserve, the life which would make you leap out of bed in the morning rather than looking at the alarm clock and wishing it was Saturday or Sunday.

So although I do believe that “If it’s meant to be it will be!” I also do not sit at home waiting for things to happen, I GO AND MAKE THEM HAPPEN and if things don’t turn out how you thought you wanted them to be – remember you can reframe the situation.  Choose to look for the positive slant in the situation.

Let me know what happens.

Enjoy your week

Big Smiles!

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Are you sitting comfortably?

How big is your comfort zone? Do you practice constantly expanding them? I think it is important to stretch them each and every day (or certainly as often as you can).
You might ask – what am I talking about? Well a Comfort Zone is basically how we feel when we are in a safe, secure environment. It could be a location – your home, your office, England, Australia or anywhere else. Or equally your comfort zones could relate to what you do and how you do it: whether you like travelling; or whether you are comfortable presenting to say…. 100 people; or driving 300 miles away from home; or even 15 miles from home?
When we are very young, we don’t know consciously that such a thing exists. We are put in the pram and taken out for a walk. We enjoy being with our family and friends. And often, we will scream when we want our Mother or Father to pick us up. Older still when we start school we learn that it’s ok to go to play at a friend’s house and then even stay the night. However, for some children (or parents) this is way out of our comfort zone. We all have different experiences of growing up and may have found it incredibly uncomfortable staying away from home. This is our comfort zone in relation to our home and family!
Our comfortable places and feelings slowly expand. As our parents learn to trust us so we expand our comfort zones – it increases our confidence and as we increase our confidence so we expand our comfort zones. It is about learning trust and responsibility.
Comfort Zones do not have to relate to a place. Have you ever thought of bungee jumping or base jumping – that’s where you jump off a mountain for instance without even putting up a parachute at the beginning! Extreme sports! People who perform extreme sports are often heard saying “it is very safe as long as you follow the rules” – I have never heard them say it is comfortable.

What I am getting at is that when you try something new generally you are leaving your Comfort Zone and experiencing new things. And often you will find that it is not nearly as scary out there as you imagined. Fear is often about the unknown. And so “not stepping out” of our comfort zones is often caused by a fear. To get over this fear it is important to push yourself.

As we get older our Comfort Zone reduce quite dramatically so that often you will find older people very comfortable in their living rooms sitting watching TV all day, and are quite negative about getting out – even if they are physically able to.
I encourage you to expand your elderly relatives Comfort Zone by taking them out, taking them to new places or even places that they have been before in their youth. Or when they were younger and making happy memories! Even a tiny change in a routine will make a huge difference. It gives them something to talk about to their friends and family rather than the boring mundanities of daily life.

Expanding your Comfort Zone will be extremely beneficial for yourself or your elderly relatives and will enrich everyone’s lives.

Hopefully I have inspired some of you to think about what you do on a day to day basis and how much fun it could be to step out and experience new things, and expand your own comfort zones and those around you. What amazing benefits could you achieve? Excitement, fun, new friends, new ideas!

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Happy Clients!

What do people want from blogs? There’s the question! I reckon a short little piece which takes probably a couple of minutes to read! Well that is what I am sticking with …. So I thought I’d share an email string from one of my clients.  It often seems more powerful to get someone else to tell their experiences so what follows are the thoughts of  SM from Haslemere – thanks for letting me share.

“I wanted to put down in writing some thoughts I have had about the Hypnosis which I enjoyed when I attended some Hypnotherapy sessions with Tina Williams.

I was very cynical before I started that she would be able to make any changes within me, since my issues (which were many fold) were pretty entrenched from many years of building those habits.  I wasn’t sure either that she would be able to hypnotise me – I am a bit of control freak but that was dispelled very early on in our session when Tina told me that I would always maintain control (that made me feel a lot better).
When I went for my second session I had forgotten I’d made a list but that I’d left at home about all the good things that have happened as a result of less drinking. I felt very comfortable getting in touch with Tina after the session to share with her some more things which have changed and I am happy to let you know too:
No snoring (according to husband)
More positive outlook
More sex (yippee)!
Seem happier, smile more
Warmer hands/feet
More interest in food
More money in bank
Not so much chinking of empty bottled in recycle bin each morning
Sleep better
Wake up feeling refreshed
More energy
Less blood sugar problems
Better blood results

Thank you so much for your help

And then I received this email too:

“Hi

Something I forgot to add is that I love that feeling after hypnosis – that calm peaceful feeling .. yet your brain is alert enough to think about all the things you said.

Brilliant”

“wow what a difference it has made. I didn’t even find it very difficult to make those changes…”

I love happy clients!

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Happiness is having what you want and wa

Happiness is having what you want and wanting what you have! Josh Bullings via The Positivity Garden

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What a fabulous week! Can’t believe it

What a fabulous week! Can’t believe it is Friday already? What is everyone up to?

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Beautiful and graceful, varied and encha

Beautiful and graceful, varied and enchanting, small but approachable, butterflies lead you to the sunny side of life. And everyone deserves a little sunshine. ~Jeffrey Glassberg

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Loving the enthusiasm of new clients ben

Loving the enthusiasm of new clients benefiting from my 20% off discount (normally £75) as promised until end Jan.

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